Being Insecure makes us successful

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I think we have all been coached since birth to believe in ourself, have an abundant amount of confidence. If we ever doubt ourself, Thankfully, we  have parents who reassured us we were God’s gift to earth since they produced us. Over the past 6 months I have been going through crazy changes in my life that have created a world of insecurities.

It’s hard to talk about your insecurities because I am pretty positive that people do not see our own personal battles going on. To talk about it publicly or shed light on the issues is exposing that vulnerability, and if they never noticed it before you have now put a magnify glass on it.
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The truth is I feel bad for people who have too much confidence to admit they are insecure. Insecurity is what makes us successful in life.
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 We as a society have had it all wrong believing you need to be overly confident and self assured to be successful. Wrong, being insecure always has us pushing ourselves to do better keeps us creative and hungry for more. People who think they have it all or are too confident can’t grow as a person. They lack the ability to be open minded and see outside of themselves. I don’t believe that some of the greatest artists in the world made such masterpieces because they knew they had talent, and believed what they were doing would make history. Insecurities are scary and lonely, but it builds a thick skin for life, all of those emotions and fears can be translated into something wonderful.
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So I say be a little less confident. Do something that makes you feel insecure. Be scared because going through life playing is safe is no way to be successful, and it’s not living. 
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14 Things I hate about your Instagram

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1. Don’t like your own photos Isn’t the point of posting photos for other people’s viewing pleasure? We already know you like it because you chose to post it for us to see. I know it can be frustrating looking at 59 likes just wanting that big 60 for self justification that people love you.

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2. Don’t tag yourself in your own photo I just need to know the point of tagging yourself in a photo that you posted on your profile of yourself? Did you think we would get confused? I need to know the purpose.

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3. Don’t post quote photos we know it’s  about a guy screwing you over. Yes, I see your photos of quotes “I’m better” “Be stronger” or the occasional google dive you took to find the perfect poem that represents your love for them, and how he lost a good thing. Grow up and eat your feelings like a normal adult. You’re not 13 anymore.

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4. Don’t post Marilyn Monroe quotes. No need to elaborate. Just stop!

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5. Don’t post photos of you at the gym. We don’t care. I can open a shape magazine of an actual photo shoot not your mirror selfie.

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6. We don’t need to see your shopping bags If you didn’t buy me shit. Most of us are in credit card debit. Don’t rub it in.

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7.  Kissing couples Unless this is your engagement photos or they died. No one cares that you two know how to lock lips.

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8. Blowing smoke Thanks for letting us know you can exhale.

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9. Excessive photos I appreciate everyone who uploads one every week. If it’s every 10 weeks I don’t trust you. Uploading 5 a day? You’re making me fucking crazy.

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10. #OOTD Unless you blog about your clothes… Stop taking mirror selfies with a chic pose.

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11. Over filtering
One filter will do just fine. Don’t think you created a masterpiece with heavy saturation and diffused glow. It just looks like a bad watercolor print.

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12.  Your 2 sentence long Hashtags

It’s definitely debatable on which one is more annoying… You having a saved a note of your hashtags for everytime you post a picture or you’re actually trying to be creative each time.

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13. Don’t be your own #WCW or #MCM
We are all laughing at you saying….
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14. Be smart on Instagram.
If you’re dating multiple people, looking for a new job, or added your grandma and didn’t think they knew how it worked. It’s not that hard to find incriminating evidence if you’re an asshole. Image

You might ask yourself well what is left to post? Get creative! Be funny! Not  every photo has to be of yourself or a timeline of your day. That’s what a fucking blog is for- Hello? Maybe it’s not important to inspire people anymore. I think it is?

Did I miss any annoying things you see on Instagram? Do I sound bitter? What accounts are your favorite? Always appreciate your comments & emails.

Here are a few Instagram accounts I suggest checking out.

HelloGiggles Jennyandteets2 Jhonimarchinko FuckJerry CaraLoren Interior123 JennySlate LilAdolf Lilfrexxx lol_vines Bacon_the_piglet Diablocody KinFolk

Written by: Ordinary Lady Sarah
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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary.
Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department.
There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.

My soul was mating with New York

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This post was completely difficult to write about, and it took me a few days to compose my feelings, memories, and photographs. To begin on

{ W H Y  } I decided to travel for 10 days in this city, starts off with being invited to a wedding. The remainder of my time was going to be spent on having the opportunity to do something nice for myself. Recently being broken up with gets you down in the dumps and I thought what better way to start my journey as a ME then to spend alone time in a city that never sleeps.

Here We Go

The Newly Weds

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A few months back I was invited to a wedding for Brian and Keith in New York City. The ceremony took place in central park! Such a magical experience to be not only in the presence of love but to be in one of the most beautiful parts of this city. It sounds cliche to say but words can not explain what emotions you feel watching two people share the love they have and also committing  their lives to one another. These two guys really know how to throw an epic wedding and reception. Forever thankful for the invitation.

Manhattan Life 

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Typical Tourist Behavior To start my Journey.

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Central Park Strolls As a teenager I never had a strong desire to read novels. Pressured by reading lists in high school I fell in love with Jane Austen. Most of my inspirations in life come from wanting to be a cool chick like her. So taking long romantic walks in the park alone is probably the closest connection I will have to her. But I’ll take it.

The Met 

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 I started my journey early because I had to check out of my hotel so I grabbed a coffee and snack to walk 2 miles. Once I arrived I sat on the Met steps just like Blair Waldorf (living out my gossip girl fantasy moments) finishing off my coffee.

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I love oil paintings. I love thick gold frames. I love collages of photos on the wall. Paint this wall black and let this be my living room. Who needs a TV when you can discuss such wonderful pieces of art?

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I use to work for a designer

who told me to stop looking down and start looking up.

Best advice ever! My fantasy in life would be to have this ceiling and long hallways.

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This was the ONLY Fresco I remember from one of my extensive art classes. I felt very smart and cultured for 30 seconds.

The walk back from the Met ….. This was actually probably the scariest experience of my life. That sunday was the Puerto Rican parade which was taking place on 5th ave. I am not the best in large crowds just because I do get overwhelmed by huge groups of people, but I wasn’t really concerned because “Hey, I am in New York Baby.” However, I did not know that Puerto Rican’s were HUGE FANS OF SNAKES. So I am walking through crowds of drunk people dancing away and I feel something kind of taping my head every few seconds. Since this is a tree lined side walk I thought maybe I was having some leaves dropping into my hair and went to brush it off. To my surprise it wasn’t a leaf, Oh no, it was a freaking snake’s head from the man standing behind me. Yes, people a SNAKE WAS POKING MY HEAD (I have a real fear of snakes like can’t even see them on TV). So I rushed off to get away from him, but it was like once I saw the first one I began to notice all of them. I am not exaggerating when I say they were everywhere, even a man opened a cooler with snakes in them to pass out like a party favor. As soon as I got out of the park I ran to the nearest bar and ordered a big girl drink. Literally, the scariest experience of my life.

In the Sky

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This rooftop had the most amazing views of the sunset which was accompanied by an amazing cocktail.

The Empire State Building

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Reflecting back to my whole Affair to Remember and Gossip Girl days … I was ecstatic to be this high in the sky with the romantic views of this concrete jungle. Being such a huge fan of architecture it was very impressive to see man’s creation. However, I did have slight anxiety looking down. Being an over thinker it made my mind drift to the victims of 911 and the terror they must have felt being this high up. It made me remember the importance of keeping those people in my hearts and remember them on the day they lost their lives.

Lower East Side Life

Baby Cakes – All vegan all gluten free

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Need I say more? This was the cutest little bake shop ever. Also, having food allergies makes most sweet treats off limits. Have no fear of  the millions questions on what ingredients  are used. EVERYTHING’s DAIRY FREE and GLUTEN FREE oh did I mention Tastes AMAZING! Also, having  a nice little coffee with almond milk helps to  wash it all down.

Hotel Chantelle

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What a magical little rooftop bar with CHARMING tables and floors. I came here on Saturday for brunch where they play LIVE Jazz music and have 92 cent drinks. Yes, I repeat 92 Cent drinks! Not only is that the perk, but if you love seafood well you are in for a treat. They have a great affordable raw bar menu. I think we spent 4 hours here listening to the beautiful music, enjoying the weather, and getting drunk for 5 dollars.

Grand Central Station

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This is a destination you have to look up and admire the beautiful architecture and lighting. It’s such a romantic atmosphere with the vaulted ceilings and oversized chandeliers. Reminded me a little bit of the castle from a fairy tale.

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This charming Oyster Bar has been open for over a 100 years. My friend Rachel told me her grandfather had to travel into the city for work and would stop off here and grab some oysters before heading back home. A little piece of family history in this beautiful establishment.

HELLLLLLLOOOOO BROOOKLYN 

Being overly excited about staying in Brooklyn for 8 days is the understatement of the year in my life.

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Crossing over to the beautiful and wonderful city of BROOKLYN leaving Manhattan in dust. Visiting New York City was a vacation me and mom always took. However, we never made it to the other side of the bridge. This was my first time crossing over the bridge and I think I did it with too much joy. I was so happy to finally pretend to be a Brooklyn Girl!

Greenpoint 

Let me just start by saying I chose to hang out in Greenpoint because I heard it was super hipstery. To be honest this is where Hannah lives in Girls and like why would I not pretend to be her for a day or two? The HARDEST part about traveling alone is not having anyone to take your pictures. It was a selfie central outside of Hannah and Marnie’s Apartment.

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Cafe Grumps – Ray’s Place

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Aside from GIRLS – this is hipster central. I just looked around and said “these are my people.”

Bar Hopping is REQUIRED HERE. 

The Bounty 

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This Charming Little Restaurant & Bar was a great find to start the night off. They have a roasted cauliflower, rice, and sautéed greens plate which is great with one of their local cocktails. If you’re a meat eater there are plenty of options on here for you!

The Pencil Factory 

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This little slice of heaven for all walks of life. This bar is in a old pencil factory and has some unique qualities. There is exposed brick, string lighting, multi-level, and did I mention 33 beers on tap? It’s a great place to get a drink, admire cool decor, and meet interesting locals.

Black Rabbit 

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This is a local bar and they know when you are not a local. Mainly, because you order a Whiskey and Ginger Pure and it’s shots NOT a drink. Also, when you drink the Whiskey first then Ginger that’s so “not local.” Learned the hard way. They have a really cute outdoor patio for the day time!

Oak & Iron

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This bar does allow dogs. Which is amazing right? Upon arrival there was a german shepherd at the bar. Felt too weird to ask for a photo of proof for my fellow bloggers This was the last stop of the night and the bartender was so friendly he gave us a free drink. Must check this place out the decor was very awesome.

Here is some GREAT STREET ART on the way to the subway. 

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#aintNOPARTYlikeAGreenpointPARTY

Williamsburg

Sweet Chick

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Cute little brunch place to come grab some Chicken and Waffles or a Kale BLT salad. Fantastic Bloody Mary’s they are almost a meal by themselves.

Berry Park

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This was nice little bar I checked out. I heard they had a great rooftop bar. Unfortunately, the night I went it started to rain. There was so much overcast I couldn’t see that million dollar view. The bar downstairs was awesome and I got to watch the Spurs beat the heck out of the Heat!

Cafe De La Esquina 

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A cute little outdoor mexican restaurant where on Tuesdays all drinks are 4$ Seriously! The tacos are amazing and the atmosphere is perfect for lunch or when the sunsets great outdoor lighting.

 Botanical Gardens / Park Slope 

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This was a Jane Austen moment for me. Beautiful gardens tucked away here in Brooklyn. Walking around the neighborhood you would never imagine this was hiding behind the walls. Great place to come and enjoy a nice stroll with your lunch. No alcohol allowed  (checked first)

The Mets 

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Had a great opportunity to check out the METS play while I was visiting. All thanks to my awesome wedding date! Also, they have a HEALTH BAR where you can get your veggie and gluten free on. Two Ladies were very happy to enjoy a hot dog and cider like normal americans.

Extra Info on My Journey 

Learning the subway systems & catching a few good views of the city

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Walking, Walking, Walking. It’s all I really did & I loved IT!

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Goodbye Brooklyn 

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Saying goodbye to New York (especially Brooklyn) was hard. I mean really hard. What I realized though was for the first time in along time I actually had a dream worth chasing again. I was inspired by this city and literally everything I did was an experience. Everyone had told me there would come a time when I would begin to heal my wounds from my break up and be content with moving on. This journey really set that in motion for me. For the first time in many years I actually did something for myself instead of someone else.

It was liberating.

The medicine for life is adventure, and to do something scary on your own was rewarding for me. It gave me a sense of confidence I did not have  in a while.

I say if you get the chance to travel. DO IT. Even if it’s alone or in a city where you only know a few people. It’s not that scary to sit in a restaurant alone or  grab a book and lay in a park for a few hours. Loving yourself & being true to yourself is the only way you will make it in this world happy!

Stay Adventurous!

Written by: Ordinary Lady Sarah Screen Shot 2014-05-29 at 6.30.41 PM I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary. Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department. There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.

I’m a bad liar, and I’m happy about that.

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Growing up I was terrible at lying to my mother. Mainly because I do not have that great of a poker face and I never really understood why someone would waste their energy lying. This doesn’t even just apply to relationships! Think about the students who lied about why they couldn’t finish their homework or take the test that day. Now in adult life there always seems to be people lying to cover up what they did wrong, why it couldn’t be done, and who is really to blame. Sometime, even our closest relationships lie to us, friends and family included. Is it really that hard to just say….

“Hey, I did this wrong. Won’t happen again.”  
“Sorry, I know we had plans but I just don’t want to go out.”
“Yes, I am at a bar even though I told you I was asleep. Whoops.” 

 

These are the different type of liars I have encountered. Can you relate? 

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The Fact Checker:
 These are the people that you have to know their coordinates on the map the moment that they lied before they will even begin to admit their guilt. Fact checkers are the most stubborn and probably the hardest to get the truth out of. My suggestion is always come with the facts before you even try to tackle that beast. If you try to fib your way through just a portion of what you think happened, they will hold onto that one error and you lose all credibility.  There is no way they are admitting anything to you until you present them with the correct evidence. 
** I think if you dated someone like this and the relationship is now over. Be thankful, because having to collect the data to bust them just isn’t worth it for the long haul. You don’t want to spend your life like a LAW & ORDER interrogation room.** 

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The Silencer:
These are the people that you confront them with the lie, and they just say nothing. They have no reason or excuse they just go completely silent. I don’t really know how you can begin to get these people to tell you the truth. The way they see it 
Hear no evil, See no evil, Speak no evil. If you’re having a one sided conversation there is no point in wasting your energy on a dead end. 
** I think this is more common with text messages/social media/online dating then face to face. However, I have had a few friends who I say something about the flaw in their version of a story, and there is a long pause and followed up by a shrug. Can’t win. **

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The Long Story That Never Makes Sense: (always involves a disaster)
This seems to be the go to for most women. We think the longer the story the more truthful it sounds. No. Just NO!  
It’s always involving something with work, animals, cars, or sickness. All of these disaster happen back to back in a 30 minute time frame so that’s why they can’t get coffee with you even though you’ve been at starbucks for 15 minutes waiting on them. 
** At my first job a girl asked me to cover her shift  because she stayed up all night studying, then her car was broken into, and her cat was throwing up so she had to take it to the vet. Newsflash, just say “Hey, can you cover me”. **

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You’re Crazy: 
There is always someone throwing it back at you when you confront them about a lie. It’s all of sudden reverse psychology. What they did wrong wasn’t apparently wrong until you found out about it and called them out. Because that makes sense? 
** This is like a guys GO TO for covering up their own lies. I dated this guy who told me he was going to a concert with his friends from work. Apparently, his phone “died” but lucky for me I peeked over to an Instagram page and there my boyfriend was sitting at a concert with another girl in his lap. However, I am the crazy one for finding it on his coworkers Instagram. It’s not crazy if you’re right. It can’t be that challenging to be a good guy, but I’m the crazy one. **

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I Lied Because I Had To: 
There are people out there that truly believe they can’t tell you the truth because maybe you can’t handle it? maybe you will over react? maybe you will not be understanding to what happened? Regardless of the reason you did something wrong, and you just have to accept that and be honest. The rest is out of your hands to how they react! 
** Growing up this was probably everyones favorite excuse for a lie to their parents. When I was a junior in Highschool my spanish 3 teacher had such a thick accent literally everything she said in english sounded like spanish. I never knew what the hell was going on. When we got our grades for the semester it was no surprise I had 48 in the class. Trying to hide this from my mom was not the best idea, because she was going to  find out when I had to take summer school. However, I just believed I had to lie to her because she wouldn’t understand and over react. The longer I waited the worst it got. I didn’t have my car most of my junior year.”***

 

My thoughts on Lying?

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It just seems exhausting having to remember all of your lies and who you told what to. Maybe for some people it’s not? I just know it has to be really exhausting to pretend to be someone you’re not or doing something you didn’t or did do and having to keep track of those lies. It’s okay to hurt people’s feelings because that is LIFE! In the end I say it’s better to tell the truth even if it sucks the big one. You will be a better person because of it and people will be able to appreciate your honesty.

Honest people are a dying breed. 

Written by:
Ordinary Lady Sarah

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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary. Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department. There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.