My Anxieties Have Anxieties

I have piles of anxiety…. That range from irrational fears, processed food, and it gets severe when people use 10 or more hashtags. It all sounds very silly to people who don’t suffer from anxiety, but for the rest of us…
Sometimes the world is a hard place to feel all  these emotions.

Here are 7  tips I use to fight those inner demons.

 

  1. Always stay rational & logical.
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    Anyone who suffers from anxiety probably knows….if we have a problem occur our mind instantly jumps to the worst case scenario **WE DON’T KNOW WHY- IT JUST DOES**. The heart rate excels and we are completely unable to rationalize a solution. These can  be small problems that happen at work and you carry it with you into the night . Relax, grab ahold of your imagination because the worst case scenario is there will some kind of consequence, but chances of you dying are slim.

 

  1. Trust yourself.
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    The only person who can calm you down [generally] is yourself. Talk to yourself. Reassure YOU that it’s okay, and try to relax. I find talking yourself through the situation  sometimes helps ease your mind. Just make sure you are still using the rational thinking when you play out these scenarios.

 

  1. If you can’t do #1 or #2 from above.. Phone a friend
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    I know there have been times things come up in my life that I can’t actually use my brain to rationalize my greatest fears, because I am too emotionally invested. It’s good to have a calm and logical person to help you during these situations.
    When dealing with personal relationships like friends, family, or dating you need someone from the outside looking into help you see what you can not.

 

  1. Don’t loose sleep!
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    This is probably the hardest challenge for people with anxiety to separate their day to day life and shut down into sleep mode. For me , I play things in a loop. I relive moments of the day that caused anxiety or I  worry that I forgot to fill out some type of paperwork. Sometimes even just looking at websites before bed keep my mind circulating that falling into the black hole of sleep is no longer an option. What I realized is you have to cut yourself off from things that cause your brain to keep going.
    TV, Internet, Phone, Computer- technology delivers unexpected surprises. 

 

  1. Airplane Mode is your best friend.
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    I have a problem with my phone being the rectangular device of  death to my anxiety driven agony. I could be reading Huffington Post Article #WhyIstayed and replay all the awful things that women endured. Or even when you get a late night email saying “urgent” and you allow yourself to get anxiety about problems you can’t fix.
    About 2 – 3 hours before bed I try and switch my phone to airplane mode. Since owning a real clock or alarm clock isn’t apart of my lifestyle. I use my phone to tell time and wake me up in the morning
    (which if I am being honest.. I wake up in a panic thinking I didn’t set my alarm or I can’t find my phone through the 5 layers of covers).
    The thing about phones today is everything is at our finger tips, but now we have an option to shut down our social media lives it’s called AIRPLANE MODE.

 

  1. Avoid Caffeine after 3pm
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    I use to be one of those ladies who had 3 cups of coffee a day because I was feeling “lethargic” and couldn’t function. I realized that having any type of caffeine after 3 pm (if you go to bed around 9 – 10) doesn’t really allow the body time to get it out of your system. I would be tossing and turning all night with my over active imagination which lead to paranoia all because I was drinking too much caffeine.
    If you’re an anxious person – limit yourself!

 

  1. Practice Breathing
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    People around me have always talked about the “Power of taking a DEEP breathe” before you have to deal with conflict. Never really bought into it until I realized when I get anxious it’s almost like I’m holding my breath. My heart rate progressively goes up, and I allow  myself to be completely submerged. It’s so important when you feel that wave of anxiety come over to just allow yourself to stop and inhale a big one, and then let it out.
    However, sometimes there are things that effect me so badly, it feels like I could pass out or get sick.
    I just try to imagine nothing and concentrate on my breathing to relax my brain.

 

People my whole life have always said I have an over  active imagination. Which has helped me with story telling but in my personal life has almost ruined me. It’s hard to be around people who are anxious because we seem to be overly dramatic about situations, but to us we actually feel as crazy as we sound. For most it can be frustrating to deal with us, but it’s also frustrating knowing we have to really work to control the inner storm brewing inside of us.

If you have anxiety issues – well we are all fighting that private battle, and know you’re not alone.

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Written by:
Ordinary Lady Sarah. 
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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary. Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department. There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old. 
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There is NO comfort in my zone

It’s always been a constant struggle in my life of what do I want?

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Some days I am completely certain and other days I can spend hours envying over my friends and what they have accomplished. Sometimes, not even my friends- complete strangers.

Growing up I believed by the age of 25 I would have been in a committed relationship and on the road to marriage. Now that I am approaching 25 I feel like I have not accomplished a fraction of what my 7 year old imagination had planned. For the past 2 years I had been fighting to keep a relationship that I am not sure I even wanted. I was in love and there is no denying that, but I had such a desire to grow in other aspects of my life then just being a partner in my relationship. It’s not that I wanted to be free from this to pursue other people, but mainly that there comes a point where you realize your differences are too great, and sadly you both have a different idea of the bigger picture. After 8 years of dating things came to an end. My 7 year old self was traumatized that I wasn’t going to live out my imaginary tale of marrying my high school boyfriend, and that 25 is too young to be married (for me).

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It has taken me about 7 months of fighting that inner child and letting go of her dreams to see that what I really want is yet to come. The most powerful thing I have learned from this experience is I have to be scared. At first I tried to replace what I had with dating other people to give myself a sense of security, but the problem is when you love someone for that long.. It’s hard to just pretend like something is real when in reality you know the real deal.

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So that leaves us at today. Which I am still dreading 25 , but I also realize there are so many opportunities left out there for me, and I need to exit my comfort zone. I consider myself to have a serious case of anti-social. It’s not because I don’t like people (it actually is atleast 50%) but also because I don’t do small talk. Even when I try it seems so forced and not genuine, and my biggest problem is I hate attention.

 

Which leaves me to why I am so afraid of not succeeding at the dream jobs I desire.

I look at the women I admire, and they seem so fearless, witty, and relatable. Women such as Lena Dunham and Shonda Rhimes who are show runners, writers, and actors (not Shonda) to such quality television makes me proud as a woman, but insecure at my own abilities as a writer. Can I do more then just day dream about that Emmy? That Globe?

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Truthfully, the only way to be successful is by fear. Fear that you won’t succeed, but keep trying and fighting to will only help you push yourself to those boundaries. I don’t think great story telling can come from all Sunny Days. You have to live and feel pain too, and I was fortunate enough to experience love. Now I get the opportunity to experience living without it, and being able to be fearful, vulnerable, and alone which will only help me expand & understand my writing.

The journey of life continues, ride out the pain, and the beauty of life is even if you feel like you’re dying.. that heart keeps beating just the same.