I have piles of anxiety…. That range from irrational fears, processed food, and it gets severe when people use 10 or more hashtags. It all sounds very silly to people who don’t suffer from anxiety, but for the rest of us…
Sometimes the world is a hard place to feel all these emotions.
Here are 7 tips I use to fight those inner demons.
- Always stay rational & logical.
Anyone who suffers from anxiety probably knows….if we have a problem occur our mind instantly jumps to the worst case scenario **WE DON’T KNOW WHY- IT JUST DOES**. The heart rate excels and we are completely unable to rationalize a solution. These can be small problems that happen at work and you carry it with you into the night . Relax, grab ahold of your imagination because the worst case scenario is there will some kind of consequence, but chances of you dying are slim.
- Trust yourself.
The only person who can calm you down [generally] is yourself. Talk to yourself. Reassure YOU that it’s okay, and try to relax. I find talking yourself through the situation sometimes helps ease your mind. Just make sure you are still using the rational thinking when you play out these scenarios.
- If you can’t do #1 or #2 from above.. Phone a friend
I know there have been times things come up in my life that I can’t actually use my brain to rationalize my greatest fears, because I am too emotionally invested. It’s good to have a calm and logical person to help you during these situations.
When dealing with personal relationships like friends, family, or dating you need someone from the outside looking into help you see what you can not.
- Don’t loose sleep!
This is probably the hardest challenge for people with anxiety to separate their day to day life and shut down into sleep mode. For me , I play things in a loop. I relive moments of the day that caused anxiety or I worry that I forgot to fill out some type of paperwork. Sometimes even just looking at websites before bed keep my mind circulating that falling into the black hole of sleep is no longer an option. What I realized is you have to cut yourself off from things that cause your brain to keep going.
TV, Internet, Phone, Computer- technology delivers unexpected surprises.
- Airplane Mode is your best friend.
I have a problem with my phone being the rectangular device of death to my anxiety driven agony. I could be reading Huffington Post Article #WhyIstayed and replay all the awful things that women endured. Or even when you get a late night email saying “urgent” and you allow yourself to get anxiety about problems you can’t fix.
About 2 – 3 hours before bed I try and switch my phone to airplane mode. Since owning a real clock or alarm clock isn’t apart of my lifestyle. I use my phone to tell time and wake me up in the morning
(which if I am being honest.. I wake up in a panic thinking I didn’t set my alarm or I can’t find my phone through the 5 layers of covers).
The thing about phones today is everything is at our finger tips, but now we have an option to shut down our social media lives it’s called AIRPLANE MODE.
- Avoid Caffeine after 3pm
I use to be one of those ladies who had 3 cups of coffee a day because I was feeling “lethargic” and couldn’t function. I realized that having any type of caffeine after 3 pm (if you go to bed around 9 – 10) doesn’t really allow the body time to get it out of your system. I would be tossing and turning all night with my over active imagination which lead to paranoia all because I was drinking too much caffeine.
If you’re an anxious person – limit yourself!
- Practice Breathing
People around me have always talked about the “Power of taking a DEEP breathe” before you have to deal with conflict. Never really bought into it until I realized when I get anxious it’s almost like I’m holding my breath. My heart rate progressively goes up, and I allow myself to be completely submerged. It’s so important when you feel that wave of anxiety come over to just allow yourself to stop and inhale a big one, and then let it out.
However, sometimes there are things that effect me so badly, it feels like I could pass out or get sick.
I just try to imagine nothing and concentrate on my breathing to relax my brain.
People my whole life have always said I have an over active imagination. Which has helped me with story telling but in my personal life has almost ruined me. It’s hard to be around people who are anxious because we seem to be overly dramatic about situations, but to us we actually feel as crazy as we sound. For most it can be frustrating to deal with us, but it’s also frustrating knowing we have to really work to control the inner storm brewing inside of us.
If you have anxiety issues – well we are all fighting that private battle, and know you’re not alone.