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My Anxieties Have Anxieties

I have piles of anxiety…. That range from irrational fears, processed food, and it gets severe when people use 10 or more hashtags. It all sounds very silly to people who don’t suffer from anxiety, but for the rest of us…
Sometimes the world is a hard place to feel all  these emotions.

Here are 7  tips I use to fight those inner demons.

 

  1. Always stay rational & logical.
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    Anyone who suffers from anxiety probably knows….if we have a problem occur our mind instantly jumps to the worst case scenario **WE DON’T KNOW WHY- IT JUST DOES**. The heart rate excels and we are completely unable to rationalize a solution. These can  be small problems that happen at work and you carry it with you into the night . Relax, grab ahold of your imagination because the worst case scenario is there will some kind of consequence, but chances of you dying are slim.

 

  1. Trust yourself.
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    The only person who can calm you down [generally] is yourself. Talk to yourself. Reassure YOU that it’s okay, and try to relax. I find talking yourself through the situation  sometimes helps ease your mind. Just make sure you are still using the rational thinking when you play out these scenarios.

 

  1. If you can’t do #1 or #2 from above.. Phone a friend
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    I know there have been times things come up in my life that I can’t actually use my brain to rationalize my greatest fears, because I am too emotionally invested. It’s good to have a calm and logical person to help you during these situations.
    When dealing with personal relationships like friends, family, or dating you need someone from the outside looking into help you see what you can not.

 

  1. Don’t loose sleep!
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    This is probably the hardest challenge for people with anxiety to separate their day to day life and shut down into sleep mode. For me , I play things in a loop. I relive moments of the day that caused anxiety or I  worry that I forgot to fill out some type of paperwork. Sometimes even just looking at websites before bed keep my mind circulating that falling into the black hole of sleep is no longer an option. What I realized is you have to cut yourself off from things that cause your brain to keep going.
    TV, Internet, Phone, Computer- technology delivers unexpected surprises. 

 

  1. Airplane Mode is your best friend.
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    I have a problem with my phone being the rectangular device of  death to my anxiety driven agony. I could be reading Huffington Post Article #WhyIstayed and replay all the awful things that women endured. Or even when you get a late night email saying “urgent” and you allow yourself to get anxiety about problems you can’t fix.
    About 2 – 3 hours before bed I try and switch my phone to airplane mode. Since owning a real clock or alarm clock isn’t apart of my lifestyle. I use my phone to tell time and wake me up in the morning
    (which if I am being honest.. I wake up in a panic thinking I didn’t set my alarm or I can’t find my phone through the 5 layers of covers).
    The thing about phones today is everything is at our finger tips, but now we have an option to shut down our social media lives it’s called AIRPLANE MODE.

 

  1. Avoid Caffeine after 3pm
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    I use to be one of those ladies who had 3 cups of coffee a day because I was feeling “lethargic” and couldn’t function. I realized that having any type of caffeine after 3 pm (if you go to bed around 9 – 10) doesn’t really allow the body time to get it out of your system. I would be tossing and turning all night with my over active imagination which lead to paranoia all because I was drinking too much caffeine.
    If you’re an anxious person – limit yourself!

 

  1. Practice Breathing
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    People around me have always talked about the “Power of taking a DEEP breathe” before you have to deal with conflict. Never really bought into it until I realized when I get anxious it’s almost like I’m holding my breath. My heart rate progressively goes up, and I allow  myself to be completely submerged. It’s so important when you feel that wave of anxiety come over to just allow yourself to stop and inhale a big one, and then let it out.
    However, sometimes there are things that effect me so badly, it feels like I could pass out or get sick.
    I just try to imagine nothing and concentrate on my breathing to relax my brain.

 

People my whole life have always said I have an over  active imagination. Which has helped me with story telling but in my personal life has almost ruined me. It’s hard to be around people who are anxious because we seem to be overly dramatic about situations, but to us we actually feel as crazy as we sound. For most it can be frustrating to deal with us, but it’s also frustrating knowing we have to really work to control the inner storm brewing inside of us.

If you have anxiety issues – well we are all fighting that private battle, and know you’re not alone.

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Written by:
Ordinary Lady Sarah. 
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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary. Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department. There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old. 

Embrace the ME not the We

I know there are very few ladies out there that enjoy being single. I also know plenty that are wild and happy singles, but in reality Why else would we go out? Yeah, of course we love our  lady friends and girl time, but we all still have the hopes of meeting someone interesting too. Some of us suffer from lilly padding from one serious thing to the next. Which brings me to if you’re newly single enjoy being a ME when the opportunity is there.

As someone who is a lillypad hopper… I realized after my break up I didn’t even know what I wanted because what I thought I wanted wasn’t my reality anymore. Now that I’ve been single for 6 months I can’t really imagine giving it up that easily.

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1. I REALLY love my friends.

It’s very common to ignore your friends once you meet someone new because it does take a lot of time and effort in a fresh relationship. I love hanging out with my friends and at this point I can’t split my time.

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2. You were probably more interesting until I got to know you.

Having a casual conversation and covering the bases on the surface of their life he/she might seem great. But after a month I’m going to realize you aren’t as cool and interesting as I thought you would be… It’s like when you read the back of a book and get so excited upon purchase then it has no development and sucky ending. (Don’t online date)

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3. I’m not really interested in our friends meeting.

There is always a birthday party that they are invited to and you’re the plus one. Everyone knows each other and then I come off as the anti-social bitch. Suffering from social anxiety and large groups of strangers.. I need a freaking roofie please.

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4. Not really into seeing your place.

This goes both ways. Many people that I know that find living habits the deal breaker. Mine is always roommates. I understand the cost of living is a struggle. However, you having roommates is equivalent to living at home. It feels like being 18 again tip toeing into your place. I’m a grown woman if I want to tap dance in my heels  at 3 am on your hardwoods and not worry about waking up Sally. I also trip and run into walls frequently. Not suited for a quiet environment.

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5. Work issues.

I work in a film industry my schedule isn’t super flexible so if you’re available for lunch on a Tuesday… I probably will never have time for you. Work sometimes isn’t what drives people, but for some of us it’s priority #1.

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6. I don’t want a nickname.

Seriously, don’t call me baby. Hi – I am Sarah.

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7. Need my alone time. 

I talk to myself daily. It gets weird when other people are around while you are trying to have a conversation with yourself (Mainly, I talk to myself because my thoughts are so scattered that saying it out loud makes me focus on one topic). Sometimes it’s necessary to just hang out with your best friend – Yourself! Because if you can’t be alone with you, chances are no one else is going to enjoy one on one company either.

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I don’t mean to come off bitter or bashing on relationships. My friend’s currently  in relationships/married are amazing, and I fall under the spell of being super envious. My point is to  embrace the time you have alone because we can get caught up in the idea of being in a committed relationship, and settle for something we truly do not want. No matter what your stance is on relationships – THEY ARE WORK! It’s like the stairmaster, it doesn’t matter if you are on level 1 you will break a sweat. So spend time stretching and breathing before you dive in deep.

 

Don’t sell yourself cheap… breathe, relax, and have fun! 
Patience is a virtue which most of us do not possess.

Written by: Ordinary Lady Sarah
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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary.
Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department.
There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women.
Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.

14 Things I hate about your Instagram

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1. Don’t like your own photos Isn’t the point of posting photos for other people’s viewing pleasure? We already know you like it because you chose to post it for us to see. I know it can be frustrating looking at 59 likes just wanting that big 60 for self justification that people love you.

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2. Don’t tag yourself in your own photo I just need to know the point of tagging yourself in a photo that you posted on your profile of yourself? Did you think we would get confused? I need to know the purpose.

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3. Don’t post quote photos we know it’s  about a guy screwing you over. Yes, I see your photos of quotes “I’m better” “Be stronger” or the occasional google dive you took to find the perfect poem that represents your love for them, and how he lost a good thing. Grow up and eat your feelings like a normal adult. You’re not 13 anymore.

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4. Don’t post Marilyn Monroe quotes. No need to elaborate. Just stop!

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5. Don’t post photos of you at the gym. We don’t care. I can open a shape magazine of an actual photo shoot not your mirror selfie.

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6. We don’t need to see your shopping bags If you didn’t buy me shit. Most of us are in credit card debit. Don’t rub it in.

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7.  Kissing couples Unless this is your engagement photos or they died. No one cares that you two know how to lock lips.

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8. Blowing smoke Thanks for letting us know you can exhale.

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9. Excessive photos I appreciate everyone who uploads one every week. If it’s every 10 weeks I don’t trust you. Uploading 5 a day? You’re making me fucking crazy.

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10. #OOTD Unless you blog about your clothes… Stop taking mirror selfies with a chic pose.

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11. Over filtering
One filter will do just fine. Don’t think you created a masterpiece with heavy saturation and diffused glow. It just looks like a bad watercolor print.

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12.  Your 2 sentence long Hashtags

It’s definitely debatable on which one is more annoying… You having a saved a note of your hashtags for everytime you post a picture or you’re actually trying to be creative each time.

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13. Don’t be your own #WCW or #MCM
We are all laughing at you saying….
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14. Be smart on Instagram.
If you’re dating multiple people, looking for a new job, or added your grandma and didn’t think they knew how it worked. It’s not that hard to find incriminating evidence if you’re an asshole. Image

You might ask yourself well what is left to post? Get creative! Be funny! Not  every photo has to be of yourself or a timeline of your day. That’s what a fucking blog is for- Hello? Maybe it’s not important to inspire people anymore. I think it is?

Did I miss any annoying things you see on Instagram? Do I sound bitter? What accounts are your favorite? Always appreciate your comments & emails.

Here are a few Instagram accounts I suggest checking out.

HelloGiggles Jennyandteets2 Jhonimarchinko FuckJerry CaraLoren Interior123 JennySlate LilAdolf Lilfrexxx lol_vines Bacon_the_piglet Diablocody KinFolk

Written by: Ordinary Lady Sarah
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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary.
Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department.
There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.

Grab the wine! Grab the Hammer! Single lady craft night.

It’s no mystery -I am unemployed -I am bored. I needed a creative outlet-Craft Night!

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Lately, I have been in a creative funk. Last month I moved into a new place that was much smaller then my previous home. I had to get rid of a substantial amount of furniture for my little shoe box I’m in now. However, it was a relief to get rid of most of the stuff and downsize. Some of the pieces I have kept were a “work in progress” but my day time job had always prevented me from having energy to tackle it. I had this book shelf that was plain and simple like Parsons style which I purchased from ikea (of course). What I love about this bookshelf though is the large size, but also there was no backing. I have always wanted to give it a cool pop of color, and by pop of color I mean black,silver, grey, or gold. Let’s start the breakdown: Supplies: Image

Wine is the most essential supply. It allows patience!

2 Large Sheets of Foam Core, Hammer,Staple Gun, X-Acto Knife, Nails, Pins, and Fabric 

Before Picture:

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I dusted everything off to make sure the surface was clean. Then I took my measurements for the backing and cut down my foam core with the X-Acto knife.

ImageNext, I took my two sheets of foam core to make sure my measurements were correct. Luckily, they were (I am pretty bad at cutting). Then I took my fabric laid it down with the pattern facing the floor. I placed my foam on the top of the fabric and trimmed down the access fabric to make it easier to pin.

You will  want to stay under 4 inches so you can stretch out the fabric. Then take the pins and begin pulling the fabric and pining it to the board. Make sure it stays tight.

Results:

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I flipped it over to check if the fabric was pulled enough. I had to make a few adjustments. Then I flipped it back over to where the pins were to use the staple gun to secure it. Then I removed the pins.

Install the panels: 

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I laid the bookshelf down and lined up the  panels on the back. Then I took the hammer and the nails to secure the boards into the back of the shelving.

NOTE: If you live alone it’s not a smart idea to lay a heavy piece of furniture on the floor because when it comes time to pick it up. Problems my friends. Big problems! 

Panels Successfully Installed:

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Wasn’t totally loving it at first. The pattern seemed super bold and didn’t match up.

Final Product 

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Head On View

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I do love it now that I have some items to break up the pattern.  I have a few more knick knacks that I would like to add, but thus far I am happy with the result. I am still missing a dining room table, and NO I do not want to discuss how unhappy that makes me.

This project took about an hour, 2 glasses of wine, 80$ in supplies. Hope this helps all you creative ladies in a funk! 

Written by:
Ordinary Lady Sarah

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I have given up on being original and accepted I’m an extra dose of ordinary. Consider myself a creator of false worlds working on the TV show Revenge in the Set Decorating Department. There will never come a time in my life where I believe women shouldn’t be helping women. Started blogging because being opinionated on my facebook status was getting old.